Fit Tip: Health is all about Balance

Our body is constantly working to maintain balance in an interconnected process known as homeostasis. Rather than thinking of your health behaviors in terms of “good” and “bad”, think of it in terms of “balance” and “imbalance”.

Honesty and Authenticity

“Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering” – Carl Jung

Have you ever been asked how something was going and you responded with “good”? Have you ever felt that they seemed to magically interpret good as meaning something other than good? Last I checked, good means good. And even if it didn’t, why should someone be seemingly dissatisfied by how you feel things are? What are they, the feelings police?

I think this ties into the robot barbie mentality that seems to resonate in our culture. I think part of this may be because of the excessive amounts of sugar-coating, sweeping problems under the carpet and conflict avoidance that goes on between people. It has come to the point where basically anything that isn’t filled with rainbows and Care Bears is a potential trigger for anxiety. It is like you have to walk on egg shells and dodge around the truth like an obstacle course built for the Avengers simply to avoid offending people by stating facts, observations and opinions based on them. That said, I also have a tendency to come across as a bit blunt, so it is partially a matter of perspective.

I think that the ripple effect of the social pressure to always fake pleasantries and cheerfulness can be destructive. I think it compels people to put a mask on and pretend to be someone they are not. I think it can more greatly alienate people when they aren’t in the best place and can create a stigmatization and sense of shame around that. This is a concern when an estimated 1 in 4 American adults have a diagnosable mental disorder. This doesn’t even include unhealthy mindsets the DSM doesn’t recognize. Maybe if people felt safe being themselves, we wouldn’t have such an alarming rate of mental illness.

I’m not saying we should take being “honest” as an excuse to be a jerk. I’m also not saying we shouldn’t get offended by things we find offensive. I just think a little bit of authenticity and acceptance could go a long way. Don’t tell people their subjective viewpoint is wrong. It doesn’t make sense to objectify and create rules around things that are subjective in nature. The facts are objective, but their personal meaning is not. Maybe we should try to understand rather than judge every once in a while and see what happens. I highly doubt it would create more discord than harmony.

Finding Your Strength

When a lot of people think of being strong, they think of being able to lift heavy weights, to have great physical power. But strength is a lot more than that. It is about finding the motivation, the drive to take on anything within yourself. It is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable in the face of adversity.  We all have it, we just need to find it and hold on to it.

Strength is about having confidence and faith. It is knowing without a doubt that you can achieve your goals. It is the ability to see barriers in life as challenges that you are destined to overcome, rather than the reason you are being prevented from achieving them.

So how do we realize this strength? How do we hold onto it?

Believe in yourself. Try to envision yourself at your goal. What is it that you want from achieving your goals? How will you feel when you get there? If you can picture yourself at that place, then you know you have it in you. The next step is to flip the switch and rise to the occasion.

Don’t just go through the motions. Take in your experience. Be aware of your thoughts, your actions and responses to the world around you. Be engaged with life.

Have an adaptable plan. Consider your environment and circumstances, but allow yourself to adapt when the situation asks for it.

Never forget where you started but keep your eye on the prize.

Stay Motivated, Maintain Balance and Be Strong.